Saturday, July 01, 2006,1:47 PM
What a girl want

People talk a lot about happiness in the future tense. Like when you find your friend or maybe yourself saying "If I could just find the right guy, I'd be so happy? " well it's so important to find the right guy but happiness is not a circumstance to wait for.
Happiness is being satisfied with who you are the way you are, where you are, and where you're going. It's not about anybody else but you. Your own happiness is one of the few things you have complete control over and while planting happiness can be hard work, but it's a work no one else can do for you.

Why are so many of us unhappy or dissatisfied? I can name like a million reason, but certainly part of it is because the people around have fed us lies and told us that we should be unhappy. We are told what we are supposed to want and when our circumstances fall short, we feel it. Of all the myths that keep us down, there are two that stand above the rest.

1- You Need a Significant Other to be Happy. This is possibly the biggest lie out there and arguably the one that most of us believe. I can't deny that if there's someone who thinks we're special, who wants to be with us that's a recipe for bliss? But why we suppose that it's all about others.
Don't get me wrong, a relationship with the right guy is a wonderful experience and it worth the effort to keep it warm. But if you're looking for a guy to fill an empty spot in your heart, you're asking for the impossible and will end up disappointed. Even if you got him it'll be unfair to anticipate from him to fulfill your demands 24/7 it's a full time job.

2 - If I Just got married everything gonna be perfect. It may not be the biggest myth out there, but there seems to be a general opinion floating around that marriage has to be the end all answer for everything. It is tragically untrue. Your husband or future husband is not a wizard with a magic wand who will make all the problems in your life vanish. Maybe wedding can be pretty distracting for a while I mean ceremony, buy stuffs and that swinging between extreme happiness and extreme terrify, but eventually you will get home from the honeymoon and reality will be waiting for you.
The truth is that no man, no matter how perfect or charming - or any other person not just a man - can make you happy all on his own. Happiness is individual sport, just you and you that's the game rules.

How you see yourself, the kinds of people you surround yourself with, the way you see your job and your place in society it's all will impact your happiness in a way that no man ever could. And this is great news. It means that you don't have to wait for anyone; you can start working towards being happier right now. May I give you some tips to make it easier for you.

First Step it's always the time to throw away your black eyeglasses If you're not happy with your life just look at the reasons why - and after getting this far through the article don't blame your love life thing - Why are you unhappy? Are you lonely? Disappointed? Feel rejected? Angry? Take a good long look at what you're really feeling. As you can't change what you don't acknowledge.

Before you get into a relationship you have to deal with the issues that are making you unhappy is. Think about it be a little selfish for awhile deal only with what you need. What you lack in intimacy, If you don't feel like you can face these things alone, head for a friend, A good friend who knows you well enough to encourage you and help you and to give you insight from an honest and loving perspective.

Like Yourself First, realize that the most important element to finding happiness is finding peace with yourself. If your opinion of yourself is healthy you are much better equipped to face whatever challenges the world throws at you. If you have low self-esteem the first thing you need to realize is that you can't keep looking to other people to validate your existence. get a place where you like yourself, by yourself.

Here's the golden rule respect yourself to get respect from others. But don't depend on their existence as like you must know that the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with is you, so if you want to be happy believe first that you are not perfect and nobody ever can be perfect, or have a perfect life.

But we all have the opportunity to experience perfect grace through faith and satisfaction. Use it and try harder to find your happiness who knows maybe someday you can give a hand to somebody else that need help but that day try not to be harsh give him a hand first before giving him advices and remember the best advice you can give is that one you give while smiling .

Have a happy life people, it's not so hard
 
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1 Comments:


  • At 4:22 PM, Blogger saso

    why should i ? i meant to get hurt.. i agree partially wiz u but i'm kind of shushed nowadays here at work there on da magazine i used to write for maybe that's why i'm exaggerating here
    read da earlier articles it's kind of shorter

     
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